The Power of Mind

Yup, the title is a little bit too exaggerating i think :) but it's okay. What I mean as the power of mind is not like I  or you could move a rock with your mind or such. But it's about belief and way of thinking. You could be anything you set your mind to. Just as Eminem ever said. The first time I heard his quote, I thought it was kind of impossible but not really impossible because he has proven it with being a famous rapper. I thought if I could be anything I wanted to be just by imagining it, then I must've become anything I ever want. But it didn't happen. Why? Because there's a hard-working which has to accompany the "set my mind" thing. Eminem said it himself after he said his quote.
"You could be anything you set your mind to". That quote should be really remembered. And also this quote: "you are what you think". So what if I think that I'm the most clever person in my class? Will I really become like that? I don't think so. You know, clever, nice, helpful, gentle, scary, and many other characteristics are just a symbol of word, a symbol of our average attitude. I think there is no thing such as nature. The only thing that's real is the way of thinking.
I realized it just this afternoon. I walked my way back to Bandung from Sukabumi by bus. The driver was a soldier. He talked loudly, acted rough, and was decisive I can tell. I thought, "oh, it's maybe because he joined the army since he was a teenager so his mind was trained to think like that or like he was trained to have such attitude". And then I came to an idea that our mind are built by our environment and by ourselves. I thought he might admire someone, for example his uncle that was a great soldier. Then he became to want to be like his uncle because his mind said that being a soldier is cool and then he wanted to be like that too. He wanted to act and to behave like a soldier. Which have some characteristics such as decisive, strong, and having a never 'give-up' mind set.
Which made me come to think about the typical of a businessman or a motivator. Their typical are hard working, clever, smart for looking oppurtunities, positive thinking, not giving up easily, and so on. Then I thought about the typicals of artists and designers which are creative thinker, innovative, smart at art, likes freedom, and so on.
All of them are typical or in other words stereotypical to me. I had an idea that they who work in some field must have a same way of thinking. But after I thought about it again and thought about it more I realized that not every person have the same way of thinking. There are some entrepreneurs who are not successful, or some employees who are not cool in their work but some of them are really good at it and they gain advancement faster than others.
Then I thought again what differ them one to another. Althought usually people try to work at places they love to, but there are still successful and not successful people in every field of work.
And then I came to the conclusion that what differ them is their way of thinking. Some employee might be depressed by heavy works while some might think some ways to reduce their stress or even try some ways to lighten their work. It's all about choice. You could choose you can not do something while you could also choose you can. Well, if you choose you can, you may be not 100% succeed. But at least it makes you have some spirit to succeed so you have some chance to succeed.
For example, if I want to be a clever person, I don't have to think "yes, indeed I am a clever person", but I rather have to think "how can I make this happen, or what should I do?" and so on. Another example is if I want to be a gentlement to women I don't have to think "I am a gentlement", but I rather have to think "I have to think 'ladies first', I have to be gentle when I talk to them, I have to look into their eyes when I talk to them, I must not hurt them, I may not think dirty things about them" and so on. So, a characteristic, such as successful for example is just a symbol of self recognition. It is abstract and not real. What real are the actions. For example I can imagine that I am a great painter, but in fact I can not paint at all. So, to be a real great painter I have to try to paint and try to make great paintings.
Finally, other people are the one who are trusworthy to judge who we really are in the end.